günaydin, guten tag and hello everybody

auf anraten eines exkonsuls im schönen güzelbahce nehme ich die herausforderung an und hoffe mit diesem blog ein wenig ordnung in ideen, erfahrungen und konzepte zu bringen, die mir im laufe der zeit über den weg gelaufen sind… ich kann mir zwar kaum vorstellen, dass meine erlebnisse, sei es in studentenwohnheim in peking oder als deutschlehrer in einer türkischen privatschule, zur allgemeinen weltverbesserung beitragen werden, aber vielleicht zaubert ja das ein oder andere ein schmunzeln oder kopfnicken in die gestik der lesenden… eigentlich…

will ich aber nur meiner fortschreitenden demenz einen riegel vorschieben und à la „dichtung und wahrheit“ der form inhalt verleihen…

viel spass

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wear sunscreen… what really matters..

if there is a general philosopy … I recommand this one

‘Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ‘97: Wear sunscreen:

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blind side you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t know.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.

coaching and mentoring

In general, Coaching is the process of helping people and teams  to perform at the peak of their abilities. It involves drawing out people’s strengths, helping them to bypass personal barriers and limits in order to achieve their personal best, and facilitating them to function more effectively as members of a team. Thus, effective coaching requires an emphasis on both task and relationship. Coaching emphasizes generative change, concentrating on defining and achieving specific goals.

Coaching methodologies are outcome-oriented rather than problem-oriented. They tend to be highly solution focused, promoting the development of new strategies for thinking and acting, as opposed to trying to resolve problems and past conflicts. 

Mentoring

Life is sometimes like walking. One moment you in are in equilibrium and in the next moment you have to leave this comfortable balanced condition to make your next step in order to move on.

In such moments of transition, when we are about to make false steps or when we feel that we dont make progress an encounter/meeting with somebody who is equal but unequal at the same time; somebody who is there to share, who will give orientation and and a solution at the same time.

Mentoring – from the Greek word meaning enduring – is defined as a sustained relationship between an apprentice and a trusted advisor. Through continued involvement, the mentor offers support, guidance, and leadership as the apprentice goes through a difficult period, faces new challenges, develops skills and grows.

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If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.

Antoine De Saint-Exupery / www.beckmann4c.org